Parenthood, Pregnancy, Rants

Thirty/ Thrifty Mum

There are a lot of keyboard warriors hiding behind the screen giving judgmental shxts about stuff, tons of stuff.

Yup, turning 30 and this year seems to be a bad year for me. Out of job, weeks before my delivery because the company went into liquidation mode thus every single cents count. I was looking through alot of Influenzers/ KOLs postings on motherhood/ babyhood but apparently, not many would touch on the nodes of many surviving mother struggling to keep the place/ home/ kids/ job together. Challenging to be a lady nowadays man~

So when I turned 30, I realised I become alot auntie-r for obvious reasons. Duhz.

  1. Different priorities and needs (I just want a simple life, not a luxury life.)
  2. I’m getting old – priority is having more $ for rainy days and etc.
  3. I have 3 kids and the economy of scales need to work for me (otherwise I need to wait for the money to drop from the sky, as if huh).
  4. Harsh facts of life that the income gap is getting wider – meaning to say, the richer is getting richer but the poor is also getting, challenging. (I refused to use the word, “poorer” because in my opinion, they are rich in other ways. Experience is something you cannot buy.)

So being a mother of soon to be FOUR girls, I had made various choices in life in terms of labour and I hope this really help those who are struggling, like me.

1. CHOICE OF DELIVERY/ HOSPITAL/ WARD

  • Okay, IF you are someone who can take high threshold for pain, money is an issue and you do not mind not having a fixed gynae – the cheapest option, delivered at KKH via Natural Birth without Epidural, stays in B1 Ward. Just book an appointment online here (Click the “Book an Appointment” on the right panel) and there you go. You can just end up paying less than 1K+ after Medisave Claims and etc.
  • GYNAE Choice – For my choice because of health/  pregnancy complications, I went back to my beloved Gynae who delivered the 3 sisters – Dr Lawrence Ang who knows my conditions better than anyone else. I had c-sect done for the 3 sisters (Do not judge me. I did try natural birth but thank you to my No 1 as I couldn’t dilate after donkey years and thus went for an emergency c-sect due to complications and I can’t look back anymore.) And for your info, his rates are good, competitive rate for a Senior Consultant and also, his clinic is in Sembawang (I stay in Yishun ok?) which is nearer to me. Otherwise, you guys can pick his BFF, Dr Adrian Woodworth who is also on the same par and had clinics at Sengkang/ Choa Chu Kang.
  • DELIVERY Choice – Bo bian leh, got to choose the cheapest option – aka C-Sect with Spinal. C-Sect with Epidural is slightly expensive but well, it depends on individual.
  • WARD Choice – One thing I like about Dr Lawrence Ang is that, his rates hor, he will charged you for 4-bedded ward pricing but there is an auto upgrade to 2-bedded one. I did stay in single-bedded before and the only pro is that, the baby AND the husband can be forever with you throughout your stay. But LOL, I’m going to see the baby for the rest of my life. That 3D2N will not make a difference to me.
  • For the Medisave part – Can claim up to $3,500 and $900 for antenatal expenses (Do bring along all the original receipts upon your admission and the nurse will assist you on the claims for both)
  • I will share my final bill with everyone here after delivery but expected to top up cash between $4k to $6k depends on how serious my pregnancy complications. Sighs for my lousy body/ health and me.

2. CONFINEMENT NANNY – YAY OR NAY? (SEE OPTION 3 IF U WENT ON A NAY).

Okay being a mother of 3 and had experienced confinement for 3 times, I guess I am seasoned enough not to engage a confinement lady. A NAY FOR ME. That 3K plus to engage 1x confinement lady hor, I can put it for better use like buy stuff for the girls and etc. But of course, if anyone in the family can help you to look after abit, is a bonus – like my mum/ family members/ extended family had always kept a lookout for one another. And in the past aka the ancient days, where got people engage confinement lady? They look after the babies/ the whole kampung by themselves.

The only shit thing that one needs to do is that; follow the strict confinement rules. Here’s mine:

  • Shower with the Confinement Herbs. You can get the herbs from Eu Yang Sang/ Hock Hua or those traditional medical shops and just ask for Da Fong Ai 大风艾. Otherwise you can check out Carousell or purchase the herbs from JB, Malaysia (Price is definitely cheaper). I bought a 31 days worth of herbs because I had intend to shower almost everyday. The keyword – intend. If my mum happens to see this, she will slaughter me alive but well, I think hygiene is way more important.
  • Eat alot of Ginger and Sesame Oil. I intend to airfry Old Ginger as Chips before my birth and add into every single shit I eat for confinement. LOL I will share the recipe and etc in hopefully my next post.
  • Drink alot of Ginger/ Long Gan + Red Dates Tea. The elderly says, drinking water during confinement will cause water retention and thus cannot drink water during the confinement, instead drink alot of ginger/ long gan + red dates/ dang3 sheng1 water. For me, I stock up Taiwan Jiang Mu Tea + Taiwan Long Gan + Red Dates Tea via Qoo10 here and also bought the dang3 sheng1 water combi from the traditional medical shops. Lastly, I had stocked up this cordyceps + ginseng bottle similar to bu3 yao1 jing1. AND my mother gave me alot of D.O.M. Again, for cheaper option, can carousell/ ask friend to buy from taiwan/ airfrov or buy from JB, Malaysia.
  • Wear well. – socks/ long pants and etc. I bought alot of nursing wears from Qoo10 and Carousell sia. Cheap and good. 🙂

3. CONFINEMENT FOOD DELIVERY.

Another option is that if you are not engaging a confinement lady, you can consider ordering a 28-days confinement meals. For me, as I am a vegetarian. I only had one choice that’s from Nature Veg. I did order their trial meal to try and guess what, the portion is scary that I think I can eat the same shits for 3 meals. So as of now, I decided not to go without the ordering of confinement meals and cook on my own (See Pointer 2, Point 2 – Eat alot of Ginger and Sesame Oil.) because:

  1. I am a small eater. I eat like a bird and NOT particular about food.
  2. Save the money. Look at the cost of the engagement.
  3. Improved my cooking and thank god for the invention of double boiler/ slow cooker and etc.
  4. I can use this time to improve my cooking. And I had prepared alot of recipes to go with for my 28 days. 🙂 I will blog about this real soon kays. 

Perhaps I might change my mind if I decided to put time into better use. But well, as of now, I shall keep it as it is. And my mum did say one cannot always touch the water. Looks like I have someone to prepare my ingredients and wash the dishes. =P

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Afterall, even if I engage the confinement lady/ meals, after my 28 days of confinement, I will still need to be on own what. So doesn’t matter. I bathed my 3 girls since they are a teeny tiny little bub.

And hor, if I can save near to 4K plus if I do everything on own leh. Of course, got help is a bonus but 天时, 地理, 人合 is not with me right now. I can do it. 🙂

And for the others essentials for myself/ baby – I got it from Qoo10/ Carousell/ Baby Fairs/ Online Promotions. Great Singapore Sales for the win. For baby clothes/ items wise, I am good with preloved from family (Thank you Aurelia. :X) and BABIES OUTGROWN THEIR CLOTHES DAMN FAST.

Good to have a network of supportive family/ mummies and friends.

Thank you to those who had lend me a helping hand thus far and give words of encouragements. Staying positive is important. And ta-da, I spent near to 2 hours to blog this entry sia. Going to continue my packing of the room and some admin works.

Till the next post. xoxo

Life, Parenthood, Reflections

Announcement on Baby No. 4

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After strong contemplation and encouragements, I decide to brush up all my courage to announce my pregnancy to the WHOLE WORLD and decide to pen this via here as keepsake >>>

😎😍 [SURPRISE] We are going to get FAR (Do-Re-Mi-Fa if you get this pun) with this announcement.

Do-Re-Mi aka @ongsisters will be welcoming a new sibling into tbe family.

THIS IS GONNA BE A REAL EMOTIONAL POST.

B’cos this pregnancy is a real pain in the ass where there are so many complications involved. Fyi, I DID consider abortion at the very start (do not judge because there are indeed complications that I was torn in between). Thus far, I had ZERO courage to celebrate my pregnancy because I do not know if I can bring this child alive. Imagine this, I announce my pregnancy but sometimes later I need to mourn death. 😭

T1: I puke through every single day in the first trimester to an extend where I got dehydrated and had to do jabs in between weeks. And I lost 5kg due to work stress and all these.

T2 and Forward: Weird cravings that set me thinking out loud. Work is draining me due to high level of stress because of the uncertainty (and yes there could even be a chance that the co might NOT pay for the ML but well…) 😩 Going to MOM wont help and Im not going to comment as its still an unknown.

During these period, I would like to thank my BFF @fishyhui for being there for me, buddy @alicewonderlandjing, #CBFF @conspiracy_of_one and @mojojojotan plus the #teamwoodlands who kept this pregnancy a secret at my order LOL and encourage me all the way till now. Of course, my #FLSclique with sibei chio the chiobu @jtll_ and 天下第一YDK @leroyl + the o-Bye colleagues (including the capable interns) who had fight the war with me and endured all my nonsense, till the very end. And also those who had always been there to hear my damn rants.

❤️ LASTLY MY SOULMATE, MY FAMILY MEMBERS AND EXTENDED FAMILY FOR THE SUPPORT, ADVICES AND SAFEKEEP THIS SURPRISE TILL NOW and those who had lifted me up by dropping motivation as and when I got super down.

I decided to post this now to at least keepsake the memories down the road and I AM GONNA BE A PROUD MAMA OF FOUR KIDDOS AND 2 FURKIDS. Maybe I should just vlog or blog about my life as a mother of 4.

Next up, wanna do a sidebet on gender? 


I am thankful that I got a fair share of congratulations and some people were just peeved with this fact of Baby No. 4 and started to judge.

Well, my priority still stays as the healthy birth of Baby No. 4 and I couldn’t care much about how people perceive me.

Till date, for Gender Reveal. 🙂