Actually, sometimes I think back, I realised I had been shortchanged all the while. Thus with a whole new level, I want to set a good example that women should never lower their expectations for someone who’s not their par.
Emphasizing this as a marriage partner because both will need to propel together as one. I always asked myself — if the girl is my daughter, what would I say?
Yes, we should not be materialistic but somehow basic needs will need to be fulfilled. Otherwise, it’s hard to move on. Similar if my daughter divorced in the near future. Even with kids, the more one should not even lower the expectations. Otherwise it’s sending the wrong signals to defuse confidence in the kids.
As women are more fortunate now to be able to get a better education, having financial stability and all, having a partner or not, made no difference however being in a relationship, the other party would need more from us as we would be the only one who is capable to give birth to their offsprings or mental/ physical support.
Wow, I just suddenly feel that I had a strong feminist POV towards things in life but well nothing will change the fact as no one knew how tough I had walked on this path to reach this far. And also this post is dedicated to all women whos roughing out their paths now. XOXO
Similarly, I kept reminding myself.
11.11 is Single’s Day.
No 1-carat ring, say “No” to marriage. Stay single then. LOL
zAddress: 61 Ang Mo Kio Avenue 8 #01-06 Jubilee Square Singapore 569814 (open in Google Maps) Contact No: +65-63390570 | Facebook:Veggie House & MAX SEE Payment: Cash because I was with the little kiddos and did not manage to ask. (Not sure if they accept NETS/ Visa/ GrabPay (Please FB/ Call them to find out) Operating Hours: Daily, 10:30am – 09:30pm Vegan’s Notes: Vegan options available here. Please inform when ordering.
So apparently I went to order takeaways when I was with #yahyahpayaya and R as I was rushing from places to places. To be honest, I’m thankful for a hands-on business partner and someone who can read my mind (even though R will shoot me like @#$%^&).
And it just happened that I was in Ang Mo Kio and was chancing upon this stall where I was pondering over the decade changes at Jubilee Square. And I remember BFF shared about their flagship store located in Toa Payoh previously.
Anyway since there ain’t much of the vegetarian choices, I went to try out the cuisine since I never had the chance to eat at their flagship stall.
To me, it’s quite convenient as it’s just 5 minutes walk from Ang Mo Kio MRT (right opposite Ang Mo Kio MRT Station).
Superb. Anything with Vegetarian YTF and Bak Kut Teh will triumph in taste. And Veggie House has both.
Reasonable for a cafe-tier pricing. Portion seems ok.
Verdict: I think it’s unfair to judge based on the above as I am rushing for time. But the YTF tasted yummy and the soup is decent and light about 2 hours after when I bought the food. Might want to go there for a second time to give a better judgment.
Comments below if you had makan there before, otherwise stay tune to my update.
Okay, for the past 30 days, major cryptocurrencies had faced a “pump-and-dump” pattern, for leisure traders like me, it granted us opportunities to enter the market and flushed out disruptive traders and for new “whales” to be granted of their position.
However on the good sight, the volatility only fluctuates within a stipulated zone meaning to say it is for the trading to gain support and this support will be a base for further movements, normally upwards.
Not sure if this is a deja-vu that prior to the bull run 2 years back. Same trades patterns were seen. 😉 Can’t wait especially Bitcoin is halving in May 2020.
I wonder if it’s a psychological effect that it will boost the price or rather it’s downright to the supply and demands where the Governments are slowly accepting bitcoin as a form of payments/ usage.
Not sure if the volatility is something that the Governments or the Future of Work would want to deal with. Should I even consider to shift my investments to Copytrading? Argh.
The inner demons are making their ways in. And I do know that if one is looking at short terms gains, one should consider Copytrading/ Forex and not Crypto.
Earlier on, I shared about the Mental Health for Kids. And there is particular an incident that I wished I had moments prior to speak about in any case, this post is dedicated to a friend/ brother who had passed on due to a sudden death 10 days earlier (on 10.10) and it reminded me on how I dealt with my own depression in the past.
Saw this post on Facebook and I can totally relate.
At the end of the day, it’s all about SELF-WORTH. Not everyone can see your worth and you need to walk away from all these negative people and sometimes these negative people could be your closest kin, your parents, your another half, your kids, your siblings.
If they never appreciate every single thing that you did or praise you ever. They never will. Truth hurts but as a strong-minded individual, the ability to walk away is the first step to curb. Cry if you want. Scream if you want. But do note that there will always be someone who will appreciate you. It takes time to find this person though. Wait for it to happen as it will come eventually. Don’t rush into things. Walk away when they say/ mention nasty words.
You are not alone. Speak to your closest friends or random strangers. I always feel that finding random strangers to speak to, will lessen my burden and reduce the pressure that I had been shouldering. It helps and there are various channels to keep anonymity.
Samaritans of Singapore: 1800-221-4444 (24 hours)
Singapore Association for Mental Health: 1800-283-7019
Institute of Mental Health: 6389-2222 (24 hours)
Care Corner Singapore Counselling hotline (Mandarin): 1800-3535-800
Mental Health is just like a common illness similar to fever and cough. Once treated, you will be fine. Don’t be bothered by the ancient taboo that you are crazy once you are diagnosed with mental illness.
Remember life is a sacred thing that one can ever ask for. Look at the patients with cancer, they are constantly fighting to win another moment of their lives. So don’t give up this gift of life that you have dearly.
YOU CAN DO IT. And we can do it together to overcome it. Jiayou!
Death will not solve any issues instead it will make things worst as your surviving kins will need to deal with the loss and heartache constantly.
I once felt tired of life and resorted to self harm but I’m thankful for all my family and friends who had pulled me up during my darkest days.
Based on Wikipedia, Ichi-go Ichi-e or 一期に一度 (一期一会); This describes a cultural concept of treasuring the unrepeatable nature of a moment. The term has been translated as “for this time only,” and “once in a lifetime.”
The term reminds people to cherish any gathering that they may take part in, citing the fact that any moment in life cannot be repeated; even when the same group of people gets together in the same place again, a particular gathering will never be replicated, and thus each moment is always a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Last week, I was in Osaka for the company trip, on the 2nd last day after the indoor team bonding (gonna be indoors due to the typhoon), we went to MAIKOYA to learn about the traditional tea ceremony. To be honest, as a Chinese Tea Ceremony Master, I had always wanted to know how interesting a Japanese Tea Ceremony would be like and what are the differences.
I googled about MAIKOYA prior to the trip and it seems to be the go-to place as it was listed one of the top places to visit (other than Osaka Castle) to learn and understand about the Japanese culture.
And prior to the start of the ceremony, the Tea Master shared about the formality and highlighted these words; 一期一会 that lingers in my mind. In short, the current moment will never re-appear as the same despite having the same group, same settings. Each moment is unique.
Indeed, perhaps I should use this as my opening speech when I do my sales pitch in the near future.
And during the difficult time that I will share in my next post, these words sank deeply within me and the trip entails another perspective of the lesson behind:
CHERISH EVERY SINGLE MOMENT.
Indeed. Some pictures of the moment that I had captured.
I realised Japanese Tea Ceremony focuses a lot on inner meditation of self (that Zen moment) and the procedures were elaborated to focus not on the formality but the respect for one, Mother Nature and the guest/ host.
When I crossed my 30th mark, I realised that everything/ anyone else don’t matter except for the immediate family.
It was also in times of desperate measures and needs that I realised, no one will stay by you except family and soul mates.
Having say that I would like to dedicate this post to my smelly brother, Marco. :X
We could have been twins if I’m born in Jan tho, with us just 11 months apart. This smelly brother had been my sidekick for the whole of my happy, sad, angsty and etc of my super memorable childhood, be it the ups or downs.
I managed to dig up some pictures. For obvious reasons, I picked those that I look quite chio in. LOL.
Actually hor, if you are reading this, I do know that you are quite intellectual just that previously too lazy to study, otherwise, I think you would have become a high flyer than me.
Anyway I made this special dedication to him because I had seen him revolved from a playful gamer to someone who worked super duper hard for the family despite not having much certs.
Honestly, I think that the workaholic genes run in our blood and to someone who had walked up from where we fall, we can grow and appreciate better in life.
Really grateful to have you as my bloody yandao sidekick for the past 30 years!
And some, even went to the extent to commit suicide over bad grades and critics.
The conversation with the girls especially Sharanne set me thinking about the expectations from (1) Parents, (2) Childrens/ Peer Pressure and lastly (3) the Society.
From Kids’ perspective, they only see as Exams, Stress, Breakdown.
On a legit note, the girls always shared with me that the majority of their friends had super packed schedule for the week and near to 90% are focusing on academics, some took up the music schedules as parents assume that it was a form of de-stress and based on the instrument that the parents like instead of what the kids love. And the reason?
They are too young to make decision so as Parent we have the responsibility to plan out for them.
Precisely. And that’s also the point that they are young that they might not be capable enough to handle the stress and negative emotions.
So it set me thinking, what went wrong and what could we (as Parents) have done better?
I have friends who are on #TeamTuitionIsLife where Tuition plays a major big role in their lives and its everything they that do. The removal of tuition will make them “handicap” and unable to move on positively. Kids of #TeamTuitionIsLife normally have no much choices on their own and would need to obey the lesson plans crafted out by their parents, for their own good. Sounds familiar? Out of 10 friends, 8 of them fall into this category.
The remaining minority belongs to the #ChillMom where everything is possible and I belong to this category. Not even a single class of tuition/ enrichment and every weekend is just time spent with the kids.
I personally think that sometimes some kids will need enrichment to facilitate and motivate learning but don’t overdo it. Find a right balance. Keep the signs in check. Mentality is important for parents. Don’t yell and threaten on bad grades. It ain’t everything.
Kids felt more stress when parents compare as the (2) Peer Pressure is real. And just to be honest that kids are more sheltered as per compare to the kids 20-30 years ago. The latte developed grit to deal with things while kids of today need some parental grips, making them more vulnerable to critics.
I guess I focus on the different aspects – Soft Skills where I call it the EQ instead of IQ (Academics). The girls had been taught, social media skills, entrepreneurship, customer relations, product different and etc… Importantly I feel that parents need to teach kids how to manage failure or in nicer words, I call it, managing the not ideal situation. That’s why I curatedLittle Towkay Entrepreneurs Bootcamp for the kids, in order to give them a more holistic experience.
Acceptance is important. I do not have the greatest mind and will never do well in Maths in this lifetime. What I can do is to accept this weakness and hunt for my strengths. I can’t possibly force myself to be a Mathematician. Grades are not everything.
That’s why if I believed my kids can do well in Arts. The focus and the shift will be towards the SOTA direction. Afterall, who’s gonna teach the future generations the arty farty stuff if EVERYONE focus on the academics? Who’s going to teach ballet when everyone graduated as a lawyer or doctor? 😉
There’s always a Master in every profession, tio bo?
Afterall, I would rather spend the time and money spent on something that they love, so that Iwould get a positive ROI. Otherwise I’ll be waste my time and money on something that they do not even like/ love a teeny tiny bit and worst, do not learn from or make no change to one’s life.
Having 4 kiddos and to balance on that economy of scale is hard. Need to maximize the assets so I would emphasize on:
Getting them to learn something that they love.
Tell them Academics is not everything. Attitude is.
Accepting failures (and not scoring more than 85/ 100 is ok)
Enjoy their childhood. 🙂
Personally, this is what I would do and remind myself to do better than to surrender and join the #TeamTuitionIsLife.
No doubts, Society play a part too. We need more parents like this to overturn the mentality that focus strongly on grades and adapt more towards character development.
To parents out there, don’t let anything or anyone guilt trip you. The most important thing that you can provide to the kids is your time and love. 😊
Parents gonna walk the talk before a change is well-noted within the education system and system takes time.
Hit me up if you are keen in the Children Bootcamp.