Life, Rants, Reflections

My Personal Story – Living with COVID-19. :)

Well, I have my fair share of quarantine orders for the whole month of September due to the fact that I have higher hit rate (4 children attending school at the same time). When I thought I was out from the first quarantine order, I was then slapped with another one and thereafter. All of my friends were telling me that — I was that friends who always tio things relating to COVID-19 and blaa blaa blaa.

And this is not enough. The real stress came when Govt just announced some changes to the COVID-19 routine and also how they are going to deal with the existing, suspecting and at risk cases with the Multi-taskforce Press Conference held on 9 October and the encouragement of home recovery instead.

However, on 10 October, my mum called after I reached home from the dinner from her place, she mentioned – Dad’s ART came out to be positive. She decided to do an ART on my dad after he was coughing and wheezing very badly. He has an underlying conditions with severe childhood asthma since young. So I told my mum to do a test on the rest of the household members (my 90+ grandma, my 70+ uncle and etc) – all cleared and negative and I told her that it could be, the virus is not “awake” yet. Did an ART for the kids, all negative despite No 4 having a bad sore throat.

The very next day, my mum told me she’s down with fever and was vomiting very badly. And the rest was history. All I can remember was — I sent her to hospital, send the elderly to the hospital and then liaising with MOH. Initially there are alot of confusion with the MOH and etc because of the new policies and arrangement. After much frustration, I shifted temporarily back to my mum’s place to take care and isolate myself from the rest.

In the end, due to the fact that we have a 90+ yrs old, 70+ and parents with underlying conditions, we managed to split the arrangement to — bringing back the 90+ to recuperate at home, send the parents and uncle to CCF. Thank god for the PSLE marking days, I got the girls to join me in taking care of my grandma while Sharanne prepare for her exams remotely.

This is the moment that I realised it wasn’t easy to work with intense work, rebuild (family) business, take care of kids, preparing the elder one for exams and take care of a grandma who has dementia. During this period, I gave up a few opportunities (including my sleep) and decide to keep family sanity as priority and everything else. Shall leave the opportunities to fate again.

Thank god for the encouragements and support along the way. What doesn’t kill me made me stronger! And right now all of them are COVID-19 free till 20xx!

As there are rising cases, just pray hard things will go back to the same soon! πŸ™‚

Mental Wellness, Rants, Reflections, Work

The Caregiver Stress

Well, not everyone knows about the stress of the caregiver until becoming one. True indeed. And stress doubled if you have a variety of household members who required different needs and care.

First of all, going through this is a super stressful one. One needs to deal wit the bad news of the household member being confirmed of whatever the illness is and on another hand, one needs to run parallels on the future care taking arrangements.

I’m sharing this very personal story of my own. My uncle has mental illness since half a century ago and my grandma was diagnosed with dementia few years back. Both of them have been living together with my parents as there is no other caretaker other than my parents who are willing and can cope with the tempers of theirs. Since then my siblings and I grew up to having to cope to react to my uncle’s outbreaks over times and my grandma’s temper and her transition to being more aware and sound to the diagnosis of dementia. All of them have other underlying conditions.

We grew up poor financially but rich in our bonds and I am amazed for my parents’ determination despite the fact that my father is the sole breadwinner and my mum is a full time caretaker of the family.

Due to the medical conditions, my uncle is not able to find jobs thus he is an urban recycler aka karung guni for the longest and his frugality and helping my father with the household spending is something that I will be grateful for.

Did I mention that my siblings and I grew up in a hoarding environment due to the nature of their tempers and jobs and there were times that I do not understand when I’m younger — why do I need to go through this? However such environment built up a strong character in me and the determination to break through the current and also helped us to conquer fears for all insects and creepy crawlies.

Okay, I deviated too much. What I want to say in this post is — I was amazed with my mum’s grit in this circumstances. As cliche as it sounds, we did ask her if she tried to walk out or break through this situation, she says she did not thought of it as a traditional woman, you can only give your best to your husband and his family once you are married into the family.

Although there is so much that I disagree with her but looking through how she took care of the family including the grandchildren, there is only max appreciation and gratitude for her.

During the recent weeks, I have also evolved to a full time caretaker for my grandma/ parents due to the COVID-19 situation back home. Everyone is going in and out of the hospital and in and out of the community care facilities and luck was never on my side as I have not really cleared a week free from quarantine and the necessary stress from all the policy changes and new rules. And because of this experience, I have realised the stress that my mum has been going through.

That level of ensuring that everyone takes the medicine, trying to keep them within the safe space and environment and the debate of getting them to fulfil menial tasks seems to be a challenged. Not forgetting the fact that she needs to constant remind and conduct the decluttering progress and accidents do happen.

E.g. My grandma accidentally threw away some of my uncle’s items and fused a heated argument as they are both mentally incapable to exercise a sound judgement. The incontinence that my grandma experiences on a daily basis and her refusal to wear diapers and etc. Despite all these, one still need to stay calm and resolve/ deconflict the tension on an immediate basis.

I felt that sense of 24/7 standby and tension almost every single seconds and everyone will have a bad day yet the caregiver cannot show too much of such negative emotions as it will affect the household members. Imagine that.

All I want to say, all caregivers deserves appreciation and also if one can render help, please do.

Many asked why won’t we hire a helper. Firstly the older generation does not prefer having a stranger around in the house and they are quite stubborn with their diehard habits. And all the siblings, the 4 of us chipped in to assist. So yeap, please care for the mental health and well being of all caregivers every moment possible instead of just because October is the month that supports mental wellness. πŸ™‚

And these period with all the work stress, I decide to forgo to climb the corporate ladder but do more of the pay-it-forward stuff and build a better mental well being for the family.

Special shoutouts to the organizations, people who went in the extra mile to help us during our younger days and I will definitely pay it forward through piggyback and every methods possible.

Healing, Heartbreaks, Reflections

Self Confidence

As an entrepreneur, as a mother, as a friend, as a woman, I realized in this world. You can please no one and also a lot of naysayers who will be there to bring you down, be it whether the person is your family, friend, or even no one in relevancy to you.

End day after being through this phase, I just realised the most important thing is how you feel about it yourself.

I used to think about getting validation from people closed to me aka close kins but I realised they do not walk the same path as me, neither they have the same experience and focus on the same subject matters thus… after so long;

The real validation will come from me, myself. πŸ˜‰

Jiayou everyone! Just keep on trying!

Parenthood, Reflections

Mental Wellness for Children

Disclaimer: I’m posting as a mother of 4 and these are my own opinions thus it does not represent any organizations or individuals except myself.

Recently, I saw many news that spoke about the mental wellness and mental health of the younger generations. True that, there are many attributes that contribute to the negative well being — environmental, culture, the rise of the social media generations and the support made available.

Especially these 2 years due to the pandemic, many are facing not just the pandemic fatigue but the students felt a significant number of stress as the curriculum seems to be disrupted and it was done “nor here nor there”. And our society, sadly still focus largely on the academic.

My daughters shared that it’s hard to concentrate during the e-classes and the peer support to study together is not there. They do not know where they fall short of, teachers have been trying hard to finish the curriculum and ensure the students understand as much in this current situation (please note that they are unable to WFH like some of us and they too, are parents to their own kids.) to the best they could however kids being kids, they have this uncertainty and are unsure where their level of understanding are placed within the curriculum spectrum, within themselves.
And worst case scenario, in our context and (asian) culture, many of us do not adopt an open communication channel to share out the issues within. To make things worst, there’s a social stigma around mental wellness.

All I want to bring across is – us as parents, despite majority are brought up by the (traditional) generations, we should try our best to encourage kids to speak up in person or through private text if they felt awkward to share f2f and to assure them that it’s ok to feel stressed, to say no and to seek some professional help when required.

As parents, I just want them to know that I will be there for them and a healthy child is important than academics.

Andrealynn Draws, ongsisters, Parenthood

Talent Showcase – @andrealynndraws

Just taking this chance to promote my second daughter’s instagram account – @andrealynndraws. Honestly I feel bad to take such a long time to create this account but I guessed the last straw was when she kept on misplacing her artpieces and also, people around will throw away her stuff on random materials (e.g. rough papers, tissue papers, etc — yes, she can draw almost anywhere) by accident.

Thus I decide to document her progression digitally and also perhaps this can help her to curate a proper portfolio when she’s older.

Honestly, No 2 has this flair and talent for drawings and arts that I do not have and being the quietest one amongst the 4, I guessed this is where her focus and attention are on.

Random Doodle on Random Paper.
July 2021 – A Guy Going On A Date

Please support her! πŸ™‚

@andrealynndraws @andrealynndraws @andrealynndraws @andrealynndraws @andrealynndraws

Crypto, Healing, Heartbreaks, Reflections, VFood

3 Months Break

Decided to make it or break it and thus left NTUitive/ NAMIC in Apr 2021 to help to pave ways for the family business despite perhaps I know this ain’t an easy journey and at the same time, took a break to work on myself, mental health and reassessing my path forward.

And then I realised – things will never work out the way it is despite how much you have planned including your back up plans.

1 week before I left NTUitive, my crypto trading went beyond the negative for the first time as I didn’t pay attention to my stop losses plan. For short trade, it’s heart breaking but I decided to HODL. And the best, R crashed my car and I just need to bring forward to scrap it. (Edited to include that he went on well and survived the crash. Er hmm.)

1 week after I left NTUitive, the spike in the community cases and clusters made me foresee a dejavu which honestly is driving me nuts due to the incident that happened last year that left me with trust issues with relationships ever since. I told myself that I will fight and win this war but internally, it gave me insomnia and etc. Thank god for my closest kins standing by me and distracting me wherever possible.

My said concerns were formalized with the Phase 2 Heightened Alert aka semi lockdowns. I’m forever amazed with the names that the Government has come up with, the circuit breaker, etc.

Took the whole month trying to find the right business model, right fit and also, spending time with the kiddos and the trying to upskill my knowledge. Decided that I need to really focus on agile methodologies to focus on matters thus I signed up for the course – Certified Scrum Master by NTUC Learning Hub (RTP: S$214) as I have utilized my Skillsfuture credits, I’m glad that I’m still eligible to get an one-off subsidy from NTUC UTAP programme and only paid S$107 to attend this.

This decision was made when I am thinking hard to push forward with my Masters or just, going through the skillsets based programme. Went for the latter as I’m afraid that I couldn’t commit with my careers and kids and I believed that academic credentials is important but being “human” and humane definitely bring it to another level. πŸ™‚

Took these months to catch up on things that I couldn’t afford to do when I was in a full-time job and managing kids and finally made the efforts to declutter the house.

Check out my decluttering list via https://t.me/decluttersbylynn

Went to catch up with a few friends when Government announced Phase 3 Heightened Alert where dining for 2 has been made possible. Also went for a dinner with R at newly opened Saute Sushi at Paya Lebar Square. Love their menu and the train conveyor belt that enhanced the whole dining experience. Hopefully as people are more conscious about the health and climate change, people will swing over to a healthier and vegetarian/ vegan diet. πŸ™‚

Check out their spread and their prices are priced at an affordable pricing. πŸ™‚ Currently, no reservations can be made and we queued for 30 mins (BFF queued for 50 mins) prior to get the seats.

Honestly, hope things get better for Singapore and looking forward to better years ahead. πŸ™‚

During these 3 months, I learnt to be a better person and definitely shall not lower my standards from this moment on. πŸ™‚ Empowering mind, empowering lives.

Crypto

Short Trading in Crypto

Just realised that it has been some times since I updated this space of mine. Life has been great when I took a big leap of faith to leave NTU to focus on Piggyback and the businesses, at the same time, rebuilding myself as it will soon be one year since it had happened.

I’ve been trying my best to overcome all the negative emotions and putting my energies on myself, kiddos and etc. And even crypto.

Got to admit that I still suck at short trading. The moment I sold on 30 April 2021, it mooned another 20% within the next 12 hours. LOL. Hopefully my $GRT will give me that bang for my bucks in times to come.

Looking back perhaps I need to change my strategies to do short trading. E.g instead of selling what I bought, perhaps I should sell my base value worth.

E.g. I used SGD 1,500 to buy in $GRT at 1.68 thus giving me 885 $GRT and perhaps next time I should sell $1,500 worth instead of selling 885 $GRT to get like a 20% profit margins. HAHAHA.

Just wondering if this will work. And I shall do that the next round. Let me know if you would like to share your tips in short trading. πŸ™‚

Crypto

Chopstick Theory -SatoshiStreetBets

The crypto world is going cray with all the community efforts in pumping what they called, shitcoins. LOL. All thanks to the viral reddit thread by SatoshiStreetBets.

They pumped $Doge aka DogeCoin which is created based on a meme featuring a Shiba Inu?! Like what?! And it was pumped up to 900% within 24 hours. And yes, Elon Musk sent a frenzy when he puts #Bitcoin in Twitter profile. Talking about the community strengths versus the hedge fund traders. It’s definitely a stressful week for the professional traders.

I did a shift to my portfolio where I focus on Altcoins now and as I was typing this, I just liquidate $GRT that gained a 5% within 2 weeks (The shitty part, the moment I sell the coins, it got pumped another 10% more, damn). $XRP did a good game too with 20% profit for me. Not bad for a short term trade.

I’m actually quite skeptical on the way I trade. For me, I just pick 2-4 and one of it will be the main based and prayed to heavens that it’s the right choice for me. But the stress level to look see at 3-4 will drive me nuts. HAHAHA. The reddit frenzy taught me that — You can read all the whitepapers u want but trading has no logic in crypto when community traders triumphed over the technologies, just like the Chopstick Theory that my mum loves to mention when I’m younger. LOL

Trade safe, trade well. Share with me your trading style via comments.

Rants, Reflections

Year 2020

I found my closure and have locked up all my past negative posts.

Moving forward, there will only be positivity sharing.

Self Discipline is the BEST Discipline.

Till date, we will let fate decides.


Update: 15 Dec 2020; Amazingly, the cycle repeats and I managed to clear out on my Instagram. It’s ironic to be socially-decluttered and focus on self, life, kids and business.

A restart is good, a recharge is definitely better.


I would rather spend my effort in investing than focusing on the wrong things and reasons. Join me at my crypto journey today. Do you think crypto or rather BITCOIN will reach the 20K USD before XMAS? πŸ™‚

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